Here are some handy tips for talking to members of a multiple system. C:

• Please don’t call us “alters” or “personalities”.
• Please don’t ask if we’ll switch so you can talk to someone else. Unless we’ve okayed it first, it’s just kind of rude.
• We are all real people. Please treat us as such.
• There was not always a trauma that caused the headmates to appear. Y’know that movie Sybil? Yeah, it’s not always like that.
• Please address whoever is fronting, not one of the other headmates. Again, it’s rude.
• Multiplicity is not always a disorder.
• Not every system wants or needs to integrate.
• Not all headmates are dangerous.
• Not all systems are unstable.
• We’ve been dealing for this longer than you’ve known us. Don’t presume that just because you’ve seen The United States Of Tara, took a college course in psychology, or know someone with DID that you know all there is to know about multiplicity.
• We are ALL people.
• And finally, if you’re not sure about anything? ASK. NEVER assume. (And that’s just a good rule for ANYTHING really.)